Question by Jess G: What can I do about my mom?
I’ve got three issues with my mom:

A. she’s hypocritical- what i mean is that when she takes her bad mood out on me, i have to ignore it and stay nicey nice and not say a word about it. when i do the same to her, she is somehow allowed to stay angry at me for however long she wants. Also, when i say she didn’t say something when she tells me that she did, at least half the time i’m right. But mom is convinced she said something extra like “vacuum the floor AND the stairs” when all she really told me to do is vaccuum the floor. She’ll get mad at me for not remembering everything she said when really she didn’t say it at all. However, when she accuses ME of saying something or NOT saying something, she somehow remembers what i say better than i do. So she remembers everything she says AND everything i say? and i don’t remember either of the two? something’s not right here. She accuses ME of always wanting to be right, but she fails to realize that she always wants to be right too, and she takes advantage of the fact that i’m the kid and she’s the mom. She’s always pushing at me to hurry in the mornings or to avoid putting off house cleaning till the last minute, but half the time it’s she that makes me late for school (i’m sitting in the car, waiting for her to quit checking her email) or she’s the one who won’t come to help me do our “big cleaning projects”, which i can’t do without her aid.

B. she complains about her weight-here’s the problem with this. she tells me to help her out with her weight, but when we’re in the store and i advise her not to purchase the doughnuts or the chocolate cookies or to not make dessert every night, she gets mad at me. NO i don’t say it with an attitude-i provide healthy alternatives and say it very nicely, but she tells me she can eat whatever she wants and doesn’t listen. When she has a large assortment of desserts in the cupboard, however, she gets mad at me for not telling her to keep off the sweets!

C. always, always blaming things on me and looking for the things i do wrong. “and” is probably her favorite word. if i’ve done every single chore immaculately she will still find something wrong with what i’ve done. She constantly makes up new “rules” that i’m sure she comes up with at that very second that she supposedly told me like four years ago when i was in 5th grade. She often accuses me of ruining her morning or evening because of a misunderstanding in communication or a slight attitude with her that i always apologize for. I don’t think she realizes that my attitude is because i can not sit down for five minutes without being asked what i’m doing how i’m doing it who i’m talking to….and as soon as i wake up i have a comment from her about something. as soon as we get in the car it’s a lecture about something she’s judging me about. as soon as i get in the car after school it’s her commenting on something she noticed around the house before she picked me up. I never get any peace with her!

D. huge issue between mom and dad-they are divorced, so the issue isn’t actually BETWEEN them. it’s things like; my dad’s sense of humor is very different from my mom, and my humor is a lot like my dad. so my mom will get mad at me for something i’d say that my dad and i would usually find funny, but my mom does not. What kind of reason is that to get annoyed at your child? Also, i don’t get to do as much as my friends do because my mom is always using the excuse “i’m a single mom i shouldn’t have to do this much” as well as basically telling me how much of a burden i am and how she’s tired of doing things for me. Honestly? It. is. not. my .fault. she.is.a.single.mom. she really needs to quit taking this out on me-if she wanted her life to be easier, she shouldn’t have divorced my dad (i am and will always be mad at them for their divorce)

Now, i know that i’m a teenager and i am not perfect. I am grateful for what my mom does for me, and i appreciate it. It’s just these stupid quirks are starting to get on my nerves. She’ll be fine with me making a mistake on a good day, but if she were in a bad mood that day the SAME mistake would suddenly be “a rule i broke”. She constantly takes away my privilages and limits my “social time” because i don’t do every little thing she says at every second she says it. I don’t think its fair that i always have to be in a good mood or if im not i have to keep it inside, when she’s allowed to wear her emotions on her sleeve. Basically, am i being reasonable? What is going on with my mom?

Best answer:

Answer by Sarah
ok well here is my answer. i have a mom and we do everything together. my mom is my best friend in the whole wide world and whenever i do something she doesnt like she talks about it to me calmly. Same way with me too. even though what your mom is doing is very unfair remmeber that you have a roof over your head , food,and clothes be gratefull to her for that. Tell your mom this:
Mom i love you alot but im kinda concerned about you. I mean nobody’s perfect but i’ve noticed whenever you’re upset sometimes you put all your trouble on me. If your my true mother you wont get mad and you will listen. I love you but i shouldnt have to suffer for your troubles. Please dont do this to me again because i love you and i just want us to have a nice healthy relationship.

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